Do they ever cross your mind? Words like should have, could have, would have?
The “I-should-have-been-more-patient”, or “I-could-have-held-back-some-words”, the ‘If-I-knew-what-would-happen-I-would-have-done-things-differently”?
Although reflecting on our words and deeds is always a good thing, repeating these thoughts keeps us in a perpetuating cycle from which it is difficult to escape.
We cannot escape our past but we still can decide on our future.
Because maybe it is not so much about the meaning of the words, but more about the tense in which they are used. And it’s the, I shall, I can and I will you are searching for, to help you get there where you want to go.
Our feelings of shame, guilt and sorrow are not here to plague us forever. They just want to let us know that there’s something we care about.
And maybe, that’s not such a bad thing.
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