{"id":2839,"date":"2019-07-13T13:51:57","date_gmt":"2019-07-13T11:51:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lindavanderkwast.com\/?p=2839"},"modified":"2019-07-13T14:05:02","modified_gmt":"2019-07-13T12:05:02","slug":"should-have","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lindavanderkwast.com\/en\/should-have\/","title":{"rendered":"Should have…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do they ever cross your mind? Words like should have, could have, would have?<\/p>\n

The \u201cI-should-have-been-more-patient\u201d<\/em>, or \u201cI-could-have-held-back-some-words\u201d<\/em>, the \u2018If-I-knew-what-would-happen-I-would-have-done-things-differently\u201d<\/em>?<\/p>\n

Although reflecting on our words and deeds is always a good thing, repeating these thoughts keeps us in a perpetuating cycle from which it is difficult to escape.<\/p>\n

We cannot escape our past but we still can decide on our future.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Because maybe it is not so much about the meaning of the words, but more about the tense in which they are used. And it\u2019s the, I shall<\/em>, I can<\/em> and I will<\/em> you are searching for, to help you get there where you want to go.<\/p>\n

Our feelings of shame, guilt and sorrow are not here to plague us forever. They just want to let us know that there\u2019s something we care about.<\/p>\n

And maybe, that\u2019s not such a bad thing.<\/p>\n

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Rechten foto: Anthony Tran<\/a>\u00a0on\u00a0Unsplash<\/p>\n

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